There's a quote from C.S. Lewis on one of my Pinterest boards that says, "Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another, "What? You, too? I thought I was the only one." This has proved true time and time again, and most recently, the other night.
My new small group is not exactly all I'd hoped it would be. I'm not connecting to these girls as quickly as I did to the girls in my other small groups. There's one girl in particular who I just kind of want to punch in the face. And the terrible part is, there's really no good reason for this. She's pleasant and sincere and enthusiastic. But the things that she loves about the book are the same things I hate. Which is pretty much the whole book.
This week's chapter was about dealing with our pasts to become more emotionally healthy. Or, as our leader called it, "My family is jacked up." And boy, do we come from some messed up families. It's actually kind of crazy when you do a genogram (this type of family tree) and see that you really are affected by the actions of people several generations back. The Bible wasn't joking around about that.
Well, the annoying girl and I each had to leave early, so we walked out together. I had shared that I'm meeting my birthfather next week, and she shared some pretty messed up stuff about her family. She thanked me for sharing, and not in a condescending way. I told her I appreciated her openness as well. She asked me to email and let her know how things go with the birthfather. I thought, "I want to hug this girl right now," but she beat me to it. Yup, we hugged it out.
We talked about being adopted into God's family, and how we're all sisters in Christ. I felt so much love for that girl in that moment. Who knows? Maybe we'll end up being friends as well as sisters.
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